Since I moved to Moundsville, I have had the pleasure of attending, becoming a member of and now serving on the Trustees Committee of Simpson United Methodist Church. I also had the bigger pleasure of getting married to my lovely wife, Amanda, at Simpson in 2007. Simpson is located at the corner of Seventh Street and Morton Avenue in Moundsville and has community outreach programs and events that we are all proud of. The beautiful stone building is located only a few blocks up the street from the new Bordas & Bordas office in Moundsville. The last few years Simpson has started a new tradition which has quickly become popular in our community. Each December, Simpson sponsors and holds a "Breakfast with Santa Claus." This year's event will be held on December 13, 2014 from 9:00 am to noon at Simpson United Methodist Church. The event is always a lot of fun and draws a substantial crowd of children and parents alike. The event is free of charge and includes a pancake breakfast, Christmas carols and music, a craft for the kids and an opportunity to sit on Santa's lap and get a picture taken. There will also be drawings for Toys R Us Gift cards. While the event is free, there will be a Christmas shop which will be open during the event with a variety of vendors and crafters that will have items for sale. The Simpson Church community very much enjoys having the opportunity to bring kids and families into our church for this event. It is such a joy and pleasure to see so many children and parents having fun and enjoying their time together. While Santa Claus has become the symbol of the season for many people, the real "Reason for the Season" is celebrating the birth of our Savior Jesus Christ. This event gives the Church an opportunity to bring people into our doors that might not otherwise come in. It is our hope to show all those who enter that Simpson is a loving, caring and giving community that welcomes everyone. If anyone is looking for a fun family oriented event to attend, please come down and visit us on Saturday, December 13 from 9:00 a.m. to Noon. Be sure to thank the many volunteers who make this such a memorable and fun event. Church services are held at Simpson each Sunday at 10:00 a.m. with Sunday school classes available at 9:00 a.m. for ages three to Adult. Nursery services are available for younger children during worship service. There are also various Bible study and group meetings available throughout the week. Simpson is also the home of the Feeding Body & Soul Community Kitchen. This wonderful program provides warm lunch to hundreds of individuals in our community each Monday through Saturday. Simpson is proud of its community outreach and I would personally like to take the opportunity to invite anyone who would like to attend our services at any time. The holiday season is a most joyous occasion and we often get caught up in the Christmas decorations and presents. Make sure to enjoy the time with your family and remember why we celebrate Christmas. Since I moved to Moundsville, I have had the pleasure of attending, becoming a member of and now serving on the Trustees Committee of Simpson United Methodist Church. I also had the bigger pleasure of getting married to my lovely wife, Amanda, at Simpson in 2007. Simpson is located at the corner of Seventh Street and Morton Avenue in Moundsville and has community outreach programs and events that we are all proud of. The beautiful stone building is located only a few blocks up the street from the new Bordas & Bordas office in Moundsville.
The Return of Bells
A couple years ago, when my niece was four years old and her sister was only one year old, I decided to send them a Christmas gift a few weeks in advance. They did not know it came from me; however, they believed it was sent all the way from the North Pole from Santa Claus himself. This gift was an "Elf on the Shelf." I will be the first to admit, I kind of thought these elves were a little terrifying...I would see pictures of them on social media fishing in the toilet for gold fish, hanging from ceiling fans or hiding out in the fridge eating leftovers. The social media posts were never ending! So, finally, I Googled, "What is an Elf on the Shelf?" I clicked on the "official" webpage and started reading. The story behind these little elves made me feel like a little kid who believed in Santa again. For those of you, who don't know about the Elf on the Shelf, let me fill you in. During the Christmas season, usually after Thanksgiving, special scout elves are sent from the North Pole to help Santa Claus keep track of the naughty and nice lists. When the scout elf arrives you must first give him/her a name. Once you have named your elf that is when they receive their Christmas magic. This magic helps the scout elf fly back to the North Pole each and every night to report to Santa Claus about the days adventures. Each morning the scout elf returns and hides in a different spot, and waits for the family to find them. Oh! And how could I forget? You must not touch the scout elf, because if you do, they could lose their magic. But don't worry if you accidentally touch the elf just sprinkle a little cinnamon around the elf before you go to bed and it will help get them back to the North Pole where the doctors can check them out because in case you didn't know, cinnamon is like vitamins for elves! Now, back to my nieces' scout elf, her name is Bells. This will be her third Christmas with the Whorton's. She made her return from the North Pole this past Saturday. The day before, my sister, brother-in-law and my nieces' went to pick out their Christmas tree and when they got home they set it up and decided to wait until Saturday to decorate. When the girls woke up Saturday morning who else did they find perched in their Christmas tree? It was Bells! The girls were thrilled that she had returned and spent the day decorating the tree around her because as I mentioned before, you can't touch her or she might lose her magic. Early into Sunday morning, my sister and brother-in-law awoke to a loud crash, they rushed down the stairs to find the Christmas tree on its side, water everywhere and ornaments shattered on the floor. They put the tree upright, cleaned up the water and ornaments and went back to bed. Sunday morning the girls asked what happened to the tree and my sister explained that it had fallen over in the middle of the night. Then, there she was, Bells, their imaginations began to come up with the best story as to why the tree fell over. You see, when Bells was trying to get back to the North Pole, she must have gotten stuck in the tree, and in her attempt to break free she knocked the whole thing over! My sister didn't have the heart to tell them that maybe Daddy forgot to tighten all the screws around the tree and that's why it fell over. But then again, maybe it was Bells? Maybe she has a little more Christmas magic than we thought?! We may never know... Hope that everyone has a very magical holiday season!
Give Wrestling a Chance
To many, fall means football, winter means basketball and spring means baseball. All three of the sports are very exciting and round up a number of fans. Professional, college or high school, we all have our favorite teams that receive our utmost respect for thriving at their sports. Although all take an incredible amount of physical fitness and athletic ability, there is one sport that I feel does not receive enough credit--wrestling. Perhaps it's because I have been dragged to wrestling tournaments since I was about 3 years old. Having two brothers who wrestled meant one thing-- packing up every Saturday to travel to a gymnasium filled with boys who wore an attire that was uncomfortably too similar to my dance leotards. My fondest memories of those days were playing with my Barbie dolls in the stands, going out to the mats during intermission and doing my gymnastic skills (yes I have some tricks up my sleeve) and swearing to myself that I would never, ever have a relationship with a boy that participated in this stinky, sweaty sport they call wrestling. Fast forward about 18 years later, and here I find myself sitting in the stands, in a hot gymnasium, laughing at the fact that I now love a sport that I once despised. Don't get me wrong, it is still a very stinky and sweaty sport that I sometimes feel grossed out about, but I will do what it takes to be West Liberty University's heavyweight's number one fan. I have watched my boyfriend, Aaron, wrestle from pee-wee tournaments, where he had "cooties," to NCAA Division II tournaments. All I can say is that it has been one heck of a ride filled with ups, downs and plenty of exciting moments. To me, and I'm sure many wrestlers will agree, wrestling is one of the most physically tough sports out there. It requires large amounts of strength, hours upon hours of commitment and dedication in and out of the wrestling room and tons of will power for those who cut weight. Although being physically fit is a huge part of wrestling, one must also be mentally strong. Wrestling is one of those sports where there is a team, but winning is an individual goal. Over the years, I have seen upsets and knowing that one cannot blame anyone but himself for his loss, is what makes it an even more difficult sport. The rules of wrestling are also extremely interesting and learning the scoring system, as well as the names of all the moves, makes it even more exciting. The problem with wrestling is that many do not give it a chance. At this time I would like to encourage you to attend one wrestling tournament, the OVAC Ron Mauck Wrestling Tournament would be a great place to start giving the sport a chance. These athletes do incredible things and deserve the credit that other sports have received over the years. Best wishes to all wrestlers, coaches and teams for a successful and injury-free season! To many, fall means football, winter means basketball and spring means baseball. All three of the sports are very exciting and round up a number of fans. Professional, college or high school, we all have our favorite teams that receive our utmost respect for thriving at their sports. Although all take an incredible amount of physical fitness and athletic ability, there is one sport that I feel does not receive enough credit--wrestling.
Never Too Old to Learn Something New
Oglebay Institute's Towngate Theatre Presents A Christmas Carol I'm an actress now, don't you know? Don't laugh, I am! My teenage daughter, Aleigha, expressed a great interest in theatre and decided she wanted to try out for Towngate Theatre's A Christmas Carol. On the evening of tryouts, I could see she was a little nervous and understandably so. We had no idea what to expect, as there was no preparation involved. They handed out scripts and assigned parts to "read," in order to give them a general idea of your skills. On the way in, she said, "Mamma, would you try out with me?" And, I thought, "Oh sure, why not?" I turned and looked at my husband and said, "Are you going to try too?" "Well, why not," he said. So there we were - full support for our daughter. We wanted her to take the plunge and explore her interests, so of course we would do whatever we needed to nurture those interests. The Director, Tim Thompson, and the writer, Jeremy Richter, were absolutely marvelous. This must have been one of the largest casting calls and it was only day one of the tryouts. They were so kind and encouraging to every person who came in. It didn't matter if you were well-versed in theater or a newcomer. Age and sex did not matter. All were welcome and all were given a chance. About two weeks later, the casting list came out. Much to our surprise, we all landed parts! And what fun it has been from there. We have learned so much over the past couple of weeks. We have learned some dancing and we have been working on our "English" accents, which aren't as easy as you might expect. Aleigha is one of the Fezziwig daughters, as well as one of the daughters of Belle, you know the one who used to be engaged to old man, Mr. Scrooge? Yep, that's me, the present day Belle, and my husband is played by my husband. We also partake in some dancing as well. I never knew that so much went into putting on a performance like this. It has been an awesome experience to see all the hard work coming together and to watch adults and children evolve into their roles. It is going to be a magnificent show and I assure you it won't be the last show we do. On another note, I can't thank my little Aleigha enough for opening my eyes to show me to believe that I can still do many things that I've never tried before. My sincere thanks and appreciation to Tim Thompson and Jeremy Richter for all the support, encouragement and commitment you have provided to everyone in the cast. I've observed firsthand what you have put into this and I've watched people learn so much from you. It has been an invaluable experience. So, if you are looking for some good old fashioned holiday wholesome family fun, please come out and see the show! The show times are December 5 and 6 at 8 p.m.; December 7 at 3 p.m. and the last two shows are December 12 and 13, both at 8 p.m. Towngate Theater is located in Wheeling's Centre Market at 2118 Market Street. Hope to see you there! Merry Christmas and --- God bless us, everyone!! -Erin Dodd
Remembering and Giving Thanks
Psalm 136 is read every year at Passover. It begins with a simple command: "Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good." The Psalmist then walks through Israeli's history, providing the people with a laundry list of God's mighty deeds. It's a reminder that Thanksgiving isn't theoretical or abstract. We're thankful because we remember and celebrate the good things God has done in our lives. With that in mind, I began reviewing my year and one thing stuck out--the arrival of my granddaughter, Madelyn. On Tuesday, July 15th, Madelyn Jo Garrison entered the world with the usual flurry of pictures, videos, and Facebook posts. It was an exciting, exhausting day. We laughed, reminisced, and passed around our newest bundle of joy for most of the day. We were truly blessed! But later in the day we received some disturbing news. When Madelyn was given the standard newborn screening by the hospital staff, a problem was detected. It appeared that there were large, dense cataracts on both eyes. Because of how thick the cataracts were and where they were located, Madelyn could see very little--perhaps nothing at all. We were devastated. We had no idea what this might mean for Madelyn or what to expect in the days and weeks to come. But God began showing his kindness in both large and small ways. To begin with, God chose the specialist we would be consulting with. There is only pediatric opthamologist in the entire area, Dr. Kenny Gainer. It just so happens that Dr. Gainer is a good friend of ours and an elder at our church. What a Godsend! Not surprisingly, Dr. Gainer was able to ease our worries by taking his time, answering our many questions, and praying with us. Dr. Gainer explained that Madelyn's cataracts were treatable, but she would require surgery. Even though he couldn't do the surgery himself, he made arrangements for us to see Dr. Geoffrey Bradford, a pediatric ophthalmologist at Ruby Memorial Hospital. Dr. Bradford was kind and soft spoken with a wealth of knowledge and experience. He scheduled Madelyn for two surgeries. In the first, he would be removing the lens from Madelyn's right eye. In a follow up surgery one week later, he would be doing the same thing in the left eye. When both eyes had healed, Madelyn would return to Dr. Gainer for contact lenses. With these lenses, we were told that she would have almost normal vision. The surgeries were hard, of course. The hardest part of all was the waiting. We're grateful for friends and family who made the trip to Morgantown to sit with us through this difficult time. But, praise God, Madelyn came through both surgeries with flying colors! The next step was a return visit to Dr. Gainer. We were full of doubts and questions. "Contacts?" "For a baby?" "Are you sure?" But Dr. Gainer walked us through step by step, and soon Madelyn was sporting her first pair of contact lenses. That's when we began noticing a huge difference in Madelyn's behavior. It soon became obvious to us that Madelyn was seeing faces. In fact, when she would see somebody's face she would break out into a big, wide, infectious smile. We were so relieved! When we gather around the table for Thanksgiving at our house each year, we take Psalm 136 to heart. We each share something specific that we're thankful for. This year I think Madelyn will be at the top of everyone's list--not just because God brought her into our lives but, more than that, because He has journeyed with us through this time of hardship and uncertainty. I encourage you to take Psalm 136 to heart yourself. When you gather around your own Thanksgiving table, remember and celebrate the good things God has done for you this year. You'll be amazed what a difference it makes. From all of us at Bordas & Bordas, have a safe and joyous Thanksgiving!
Black Friday as Told From the Other Side of the Cash Register
For as long as I can remember, tradition and society alike have told me it's a good idea to dash to the nearest shopping center and spend an entire 24 hours hunting bargains and slashed prices during the sheer madness that is the day after Thanksgiving, or, in layman's terms, Black Friday. This year, for the first time since 2010, I'll be spending the craziest shopping day of the year on the side of the cash register opposite of where I spent the past three. This is the first holiday season in quite some time for me that will not be spent working retail. If you think shopping on Black Friday is chaotic, try being a sales associate during the insanity. I spent my retail stint (a stint that lasted considerably longer than I had originally anticipated, mind you) happily employed by Macy's, the world's biggest and best department store. Naturally a company with that sort of reputation draws an enormous crowd on Black Friday. Lines of serious shoppers eagerly awaiting the store's opening regularly formed outside the main entrances while we, the sales associates, battened down the hatches for what was sure to be a night, early morning, and day of utter chaos. Utter chaos though it was, Black Friday never under delivered in the entertainment department. Hidden exclusions that forbade the use of a slew of coupons always cropped up, merchandise that the store was guaranteed to have a seemingly endless supply of ran out, and customers that you pegged as only a little grouchy were always infinitely more ill-tempered and unhappy to see you than you initially assumed. Against all odds, we, the associates, somehow managed to muddle through our shifts with the majority of our spirit and sanity remaining. All the things that didn't work or went wrong or totally contradicted any prior sales training made for some truly unforgettable Black Friday memories. This Thanksgiving, after the dishes are cleared and the leftovers are stowed away for the next week's worth of meals, I will head to the mall at my leisure and partake in Black Friday festivities in a much different fashion than what I'm used to. As I'm hunting down my own holiday deals, I'll recall my craziest-shopping-day-of-the-year experiences as a Macy's sales associate and how each and every one of them were spent surrounded by some of the best people I've ever met. It was honestly more enjoyable than I prefer to let on. To all the die-hard holiday shoppers, have fun and be safe as you brave the masses this year. Finally and perhaps most importantly, be nice to be the sales associates you encounter amidst the hustle and bustle because they really do want to help you. Take it from someone who lived and breathed retail for some odd years - I know what I'm talking about. For as long as I can remember, tradition and society alike have told me it's a good idea to dash to the nearest shopping center and spend an entire 24 hours hunting bargains and slashed prices during the sheer madness that is the day after Thanksgiving, or, in layman's terms, Black Friday. This year, for the first time since 2010, I'll be spending the craziest shopping day of the year on the side of the cash register opposite of where I spent the past three. This is the first holiday season in quite some time for me that will not be spent working retail.
The Smell of Thanksgiving Day
Mmmmm, the aroma of turkey, mashed potatoes and stuffing slowly roasting from the crack of dawn. The scent of it really fills me with warmth and fond memories. I find myself vividly remembering all the family gatherings at my Grandparents' home. The adults cooked and nibbled on all the side dishes for the grand feast they were preparing for the day as they watched football and visited. The children all played flag football in the yard wearing "Turkey Bowl" t-shirts. We crafted spook houses in the evening in Grandma's basement, which involved spinning around in Grandpa's office chair until you almost fell over. I remember looking out my Grandparents back bay window, watching the parachuters land in the fields behind the home as my Grandparents lived on a farm. This was a genuine Thanksgiving gathering. My Grandfather always led the dinner in a prayer and we all knew he would get the turkey leg, but the wishbone was always up for grabs. Waiting on it to dry out so we could pull it apart to see who would get their wish was ever so exciting. Cousins, aunts and uncles, all spending the night at Grandma and Grandpa's house. All the kids would sleep in sleeping bags in the rec room, staying up late goofing around, playing games and scaring each other with silly ghost stories. Our stomachs were always so full, but that never stopped us from getting up the next morning and doing it all over again with re-heated seconds. Those were the days. Days that have changed. My Grandparents have all passed away now and we still miss them so, but their memories never fade as we remember all the love they gave us. The responsibility of Thanksgiving has fallen upon my mother and her siblings, who take turns every year re-creating those memories for their children and grandchildren. Although I now do a little bit of the cooking, somehow I still sit at the kids table just with a much bigger plate. Every day is a day to gives thanks; this special day is extra special to be thankful as we gather with our families and friends creating memories to cherish forever. Happy Thanksgiving Friends!
Why I'm Extra Thankful for Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. Spending time with family, eating and drinking, and watching TV all day is pretty much my perfect day, so being encouraged, if not required, to do those things is all the better. My family has done pretty much the same thing every year for Thanksgiving, and even though it's nothing fancy, it is something I look forward to each year. I truly mean it when I say that I am thankful for Thanksgiving, the food I am able to eat, and the people I am able to spend time with on that day. However, Thanksgiving now has an extra special reason for me and my family to be thankful each year. Two years ago, in early November, my uncle was diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer. This is a bad diagnosis, no matter what the details, but he was told that the severity of the situation could not fully be determined until he underwent surgery. After that, they would determine the appropriate approach for chemotherapy, radiation, future surgeries, and medications to give him the best chances . The initial surgery was scheduled for the day before Thanksgiving. Everyone was nervous, but hopeful and faithful that things would work out. Unfortunately, that did not end up being the case. That same day of the surgery, the doctors informed my uncle and his family that the cancer was so bad that they did not see any waay that they could help. They gave a bleak prognosis, indicating that he might not even make it until Christmas. They suggested that he go home to spend time with his family and do what he could to enjoy the time that he had left, rather than spend it in the hospital undergoing painful treatments that they felt would not make a difference in the end. Needless to say, Thanksgiving that year was very difficult. I knew that I still had many things in my life to be thankful for, but there was just so much sadness and fear. In spite of the bad news, or maybe because of it, I was very grateful to be able to be around my entire family, including my uncle's parents who had come in from Canada. I was glad that my sister had been able to schedule a trip home from Denver for Thanksgiving that year, when she hadn't been planning to come. I was happy that my cousin had recently moved back to Michigan from California, and was there as well. And, though it was also an awful feeling, I was happy to go visit my uncle in the hospital, and make sure he saw as many of his family members as possible as he spent that Thanksgiving in a recovery room, rather than on the couch at my aunt's house. A few days after that Thanksgiving, my mom ran into an oncologist who attends her church and whose children my sister and I grew up with at school. My mom explained what was happening with my uncle, and this doctor generously offered to make arrangements for him to enter an experimental cancer treatment program for patients who were diagnosed as terminal. The doctor made good on his word, and shortly thereafter, my uncle began treatments. In July of 2013, he was told that he was cancer free. Though the cancer has returned since then, it has remained controllable. My uncle is an incredible person, and has never once lost his positive outlook on the situation. This Thanksgiving will mark the second one that we have had him around for, when we were told there would be no more. And that is truly something that makes Thanksgiving a very special holiday for me and my family. Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. Spending time with family, eating and drinking, and watching TV all day is pretty much my perfect day, so being encouraged, if not required, to do those things is all the better. My family has done pretty much the same thing every year for Thanksgiving, and even though it's nothing fancy, it is something I look forward to each year. I truly mean it when I say that I am thankful for Thanksgiving, the food I am able to eat, and the people I am able to spend time with on that day. However, Thanksgiving now has an extra special reason for me and my family to be thankful each year.
Roots
I've never really been a genealogy buff. Sure, I've always been interested in my family roots. I remember how much I enjoyed listening to my grandmother tell stories of what it was like growing up on a small farm in Tyler County. But I never really dug deep to mine all of the nuggets of my family's history. All that changed several years ago when my grandmother gave us a box filled with papers from my great-great grandfather, Elisha. It was a lawyer's dream--a whole assortment of deeds, contracts, and other legal papers dating back 150 years. All of them were written by hand. Many of them used old legal jargon that I had studied in law school, but had never actually seen in my practice. One paper in particular caught my eye. It was a handwritten summons from 1863. Near the bottom, it proudly announced that it was issued in "the first year of the state." It was thoroughly enjoyable making this journey through the past. My interest was spurred and I began doing more research. I had always assumed that my family emigrated from England. It's hard to imagine a name with a more "Anglo" ring to it than Stoneking. But as I kept tracing my lineage, I learned something new and quite unexpected. Jacob Steinkoenig had immigrated to America in the 1700s from Prussia--a part of north central Europe that would become modern day Germany. When he landed in America, Jacob changed his surname to something a little more palatable to the English ear. It turns out I wasn't English at all. I was German! As if this wasn't surprising enough, I also learned that Jacob settled in southwestern Pennsylvania and then married Aliquippa, a princess from the Seneca tribe. Not only was there German blood running through my veins, there was Native American blood too! If you haven't taken time to trace your genealogy, I want to encourage you to do so. There are some great online resources. I can attest that it's a wonderful, eye-opening experience. Do you have a genealogy story of your own? I invite you to share it here. Maybe you'll inspire someone else to begin this same journey for themselves. I've never really been a genealogy buff. Sure, I've always been interested in my family roots. I remember how much I enjoyed listening to my grandmother tell stories of what it was like growing up on a small farm in Tyler County. But I never really dug deep to mine all of the nuggets of my family's history.
People and Their Pets: A Look at the Furry Dodds
Maybe you have a pet or are considering getting a pet. Perhaps you prefer a dog, cat, fish, hamster or have some other preference. Whatever your choice may be, it is believed that pets can provide therapeutic and health benefits in addition to endless years of joy. Pets are not easy and they require a lot of work. I, myself said, "I would never have a puppy again." Puppies are pretty tough, but guess what? I have a new pup. And, here he is..... We got him in May and named him Eli after the legendary Eli Manning. This little guy is a Shorkie breed. He has brought about many moments that really made us chuckle this past summer and for the most part has been a pretty good pup with a bit of a humorous personality. Next, we have Scooby. Scooby is 14 and was named by my son after the ever so famous Scooby Doo, well in our case, Scooby Dodd. Scooby is a Chihuahua Terrier mix with somewhat of a nervous personality, natural to his breed. So, we are a bit more cautious with him around outsiders, it's necessary for him because of his nerves, not for others. Finally, we have our 12-year-old cat. My daughter, Aleigha, believes this is her soul mate and guardian angel. They are inseparable and even seem to speak their own language. Tiko-from Dora the Explorer, is her name, of course. Tiko is an exceptional cat and is as loving as can be. She is not finicky like the stereotypical cat. She possesses a very loving personality and is sensitive to people. So, these are the fury Dodds. They are our household members and priceless assets to our family. I encourage you to look into what you think may be a good fit for your lifestyle or family if considering a pet. Choose wisely and take your time. If you are already a pet owner, I invite you to send us some pet photos on our Bordas & Bordas Facebook page. They can help de-stress your day and mine. We'd love to see them. Pets are great companions and many help keep you active but mostly, they offer unconditional love and affection.
Living with a Senior Dog and the Importance of Finding Homes for Senior Dogs in Shelters
On November 6, 2000, my life was forever changed for the better when I brought home a little fur ball that I had found two days earlier at a pet supply store where the local animal shelter had brought several puppies hoping to find them homes. It was love at first sight when this little white and black fur ball that fit in the palm of my hand climbed onto my lap. Although my heart said, "Take this puppy home now," I wanted to take a day or two and make sure I was ready for the responsibility of becoming a puppy parent. My friend who was with me at the time, however, knew that the puppy who would come to be known as Cassie, was meant to be with me and snuck back and paid the adoption fee so that Cassie would be waiting for me when I accepted what my friend and I already knew: I was becoming a puppy parent. When I went to the shelter the following day to say I wanted the puppy, I learned she was already mine and would be permitted to come home with me the following day. Cassie and I have been through a lot together over the past 14 years. She has saved my life in more ways than one. The energetic, little puppy who grew up and learned how to let herself out the front storm door if I forgot to lock it and make her rounds through the neighborhood, calmed significantly as she aged. By the time she was three, no leash was needed as Cassie would rarely leave my side. Until recently, all I would have to do is make a noise and she was right back by my side if she strayed too far. A few months ago, however, our lives began to change and we are both learning to deal with the new reality of Cassie's age. While I had thought many times previously that I was going to lose her when she was battling cancer and through other health scares, I wasn't really prepared for her to start showing her age and acting like a senior dog. I've been fortunate. Cassie has not acted like an "old dog" until recently. For well over 13 years, Cassie greeted me at the door whenever I came home. The first few times she did not greet me at the door, I ran through the house panicked, thinking she was dead. When I would find her and touch her, she would jump and look at me, obviously scared. What I now know is that she has started sleeping very soundly during the day and, likely, is starting to lose her hearing. So when I come home now, I start talking and calling for her as soon as I walk in the door letting my voice get louder and louder until she realizes I am there. I know I still scare her at times, but we are both adjusting. Mornings are our best time. In the morning, she still acts like the playful pup I've always had. Evenings vary. Sometimes she is playful, other times she simply sleeps. I must watch her more closely when she is outside because she gets confused in the evenings and sometimes wanders farther than she should and cannot hear me calling her back. I've learned to gauge when she has had too much activity and get her home to rest or she will be down for days. She has medicines now to help with several age-related, non-life-threatening issues. Cassie and I are learning to live with the new reality of her age. I know it's my responsibility to care for her and make sure she has what she needs to be comfortable and live her remaining days to the fullest. It's the responsibility I wanted to make sure I was prepared to undertake when I found her at Petsmart 14 years ago. More and more people have asked me recently if I will be getting another puppy when Cassie's time on earth finally ends. My initial reaction was no, no dog could every replace her. However, I also know that I am too much of a dog lover to never have another dog again. Rather than a puppy though, I will likely adopt an older dog. There are thousands of older dogs who find themselves in shelters for various reasons, none of which are the dog's fault. These dogs are just as deserving of good homes as puppies and, most likely, are already trained and socialized. Older dogs are at higher risk in shelters and less likely to be adopted because people think they want puppies and don't realize just how special older dogs can be. At Bordas and Bordas, we know the difference animals make in our lives and the difference we can make in the lives of animals who need loving homes. If you are prepared to accept the responsibilities of caring for an older dog, I would encourage you to consider giving a home to a shelter dog who has lost its home through no fault of its own. The love you will receive from that grateful pup will more than likely pay you back for the responsibility you have undertaken. On November 6, 2000, my life was forever changed for the better when I brought home a little fur ball that I had found two days earlier at a pet supply store where the local animal shelter had brought several puppies hoping to find them homes. It was love at first sight when this little white and black fur ball that fit in the palm of my hand climbed onto my lap. Although my heart said, "Take this puppy home now," I wanted to take a day or two and make sure I was ready for the responsibility of becoming a puppy parent. My friend who was with me at the time, however, knew that the puppy who would come to be known as Cassie, was meant to be with me and snuck back and paid the adoption fee so that Cassie would be waiting for me when I accepted what my friend and I already knew: I was becoming a puppy parent. When I went to the shelter the following day to say I wanted the puppy, I learned she was already mine and would be permitted to come home with me the following day.
World Prematurity Day
November 17, 2014 marks the 4 th worldwide awareness day for prematurity. " World Prematurity Day " is a global movement to raise awareness about prematurity highlighting the burden of preterm birth, informing on simple, proven cost-effective solutions and invoking compassion for families who have experienced preterm birth." Most people probably don't even know that such a day exists, but if you are the mother of a preemie, undoubtedly that day sparks many emotions for you. For some parents of preemies, it is a day that you thank God for the blessing of your sweet baby, who overcame the odds and survived her premature birth. For other mothers, it reminds them of dark days spent in the NICU with their teeny tiny baby, almost unrecognizable from all of the tubes and wires that were keeping her alive, feeding her, breathing for her. For some mothers, it's a reminder of the day you gave birth to the baby you prayed for and who grew inside of you, yet were unable to hold and hug when she was born. A reminder of days that turned into weeks, and weeks into months for some women who spent nights praying and begging God that her child would get to one day make it home to see the room she prepared for her, or meet her brothers and sisters anxiously awaiting her arrival. Hopefully for many of those moms that story ended happily, and those sweet, prematurely born babies are now thriving and healthy. And because of your struggles, the days with your child are fuller and you are cherishing hugging and kissing those sweet faces that you stared at through a glass crib for so long. Unfortunately, the stories don't always end happily, and for some mothers, this is just another day to be reminded of the loss of their precious baby who got her wings too soon. A day that their heart aches, and they are reminded of the piece of them that was lost. If you are one of the fortunate people who have never given November 17 th a second thought these past few years, then hopefully after reading this you will. Premature birth is the leading cause of death for newborns. Every year 15 million babies are born prematurely. Statistically, that is one in ten babies. A pregnancy is 40 weeks long. Doctors consider a baby full term when the mother reaches 37 weeks of pregnancy. Therefore, any baby born before 37 weeks is considered premature by the medical definition. Most doctors define the age of viability as 24 weeks. In many hospitals, 24 weeks is the cutoff point for when doctors will use intensive medical intervention to attempt to save the life of a baby born prematurely. In the hands of experienced specialists, some babies born slightly earlier may have a chance of survival. The earliest baby to have ever survived a premature birth was born at 21 weeks 5 days. The likelihood of survival jumps from 17 percent at 23 weeks to 39 percent at 24 weeks. By 25 weeks, the baby has a 50-50 chance of survival if born. Jumping another ten percent the next two weeks and by 28-31 weeks if born, babies have a 90-95 percent chance of survival; however, this doesn't discount the many obstacles that the baby will have to overcome. The lungs are the last major organ to develop and won't be fully developed until 34 weeks or slightly later. The biggest hurdle premature babies must overcome is breathing on their own. But any loss of oxygen to the brain for a sufficient amount of time can lead to brain damage which is why proper ventilation is essential to survival. The journey of a gestational baby is so fragile and time is of the essence. My daughter, my first child, was born prematurely. I thank God daily that I am one of the mothers with a happy ending to my story. My little girl, who was a fighter from the beginning, is now 7, and many people are shocked to know that she was born prematurely. But in those 12 hours of labor, the fear that I felt, the horror that I imagined, the tears that I shed, and the prayers that I said, are still just as real to me today as they were 7 years ago. And I feel them all over again for every mother I think about on today's date. Yet for some mothers, there wasn't the wait and the hours of labor, but instead a furry of hurry and emergent worry as they were whisked off to the Operating Room for a Cesarean Section. They were left with no time to think about anything but getting their baby out safely. We imagine the day we give birth to our children to be the most amazing day ever. And as most moms they will tell you, the best days of their lives were the days each of their children were born. But what if that day, the day you imagined to be so wonderful and full of bliss, was a day spent agonizing over the health of your baby? A day that you had envisioned holding your newly born baby all snuggled in a blanket in your arms, but in reality was a day that only allowed you to watch at a distance as your baby was poked and prodded and kept alive by machines? I now have four children and my oldest still remains the only child that I wasn't allowed to hold immediately after giving birth to her. This is a very minute detail in the struggles of many preemie moms, yet nonetheless, was a very unwanted and unimagined part of my delivery. Whatever the outcome was for the mothers of preemies, World Prematurity Day is certainly a day that they do not forget. So whether you are a parent or relative of a preemie, know someone who is, or have been fortunate enough to have never have given this day a second thought, close your eyes today and say a prayer for those children currently fighting for their life in a hospital, too young to know the severity of their situation or the pain in their mother's heart, thank God for those babies who beat the odds and have fought the hard battle and have a prosperous life now, ask for strength for those babies who survived but struggle daily with the effects of their prematurity, and ask God to continue to watch over those precious babies that are now angels with him. Today is about bringing awareness to the world about the very thing that makes the world what it is - life. Let us all be reminded today that the miracle of life is just that, a miracle. Below are some stories of local mothers sharing their experiences of having given birth to a premature baby... "When my daughter Isabella was born prematurely at 33 weeks, I felt robbed of the joy I had experienced with the births of my other three children. I felt like a first time mom, not knowing all the NICU lingo and nuances of taking care of a preemie. All the tubes and incubators intimidated me. I was in the hospital 18 days before I delivered because of leaking amniotic fluid. Isabella spent 5 days in the NICU and 14 total days in the hospital. She only weighed 3 lbs 15 oz at birth. The thing I learned about prematurity is that is doesn't go away after the first few months. Isabella was delayed in all her milestones and received therapy for three years. Today, Isabella still amazes me how far she's come, and still has that fighting spirit she gained in the NICU. 'If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you.'" - Hollie Adams, mother of Isabella Adams, born at 33 weeks. "Our preemie experience included two months of bed rest, an emergency C-Section at 32 weeks, a helicopter ride for Levi and 31 days in the NIC Unit at MaGee-Womens Hospital. Levi Bo weighed 2.6 lbs and was 13 inches long at birth. What all of tests, doctors or the wonderful team of nurses could not measure was his irresistible force of will. Today, Levi is a healthy six-year-old. He is still small in stature, but his personality and spirit are legendary. He is the toughest kid we know and he inspires us daily.'" - Heather Rine, mother of Levi Rine, born at 32 weeks. "On April 15, 2014, our little Paige was born. She weighed 2 lbs, 2.5 ounces, and was 14 inches long. She was born 13 weeks prematurely and was in the NICU for 66 days. Those 66 days were the hardest days of my life as I wondered what battles, if any, we would face on this journey. Though my husband and I struggled, we received support not just from family and friends, but also from the nurses and physicians at the NICU. One of Paige's doctors told us that "the more active and involved the parents are, the better the baby does." As we continued to play an active role, Paige grew stronger and developed into the healthy, happy baby she is today. We brought her home from the hospital at 37 weeks gestation which the doctors considered an amazing feat. Paige is our little miracle and fighter.'" - Colleen Touvelle, mother of Paige Touvelle, born at 27 weeks. "I could have never been prepared for having a child born at 31 weeks. But there was Claire, born on the evening of my baby shower. She was so tiny weighing just 3 lbs. Once I got to hold her the next day and seeing just how tiny she was I knew we had a long road ahead. Claire spent two months in West Penn NICU before coming home. Not knowing what the next day would bring, myself and my husband Philip spent weeks at her bedside living the up and downs of the NICU roller-coaster, a scary and defining experience that jolted us into parenthood.'" - Stefanie Trouten, mother of Claire Trouten, born at 31 weeks. "Nothing can prepare a family for the birth of a preterm baby, and in our situation, we were taken by complete surprise as we welcomed our son five weeks early. After giving birth to a nearly 9 lb, healthy, full-term daughter four years prior, having a baby with undeveloped lungs was the furthest thing from my mind, yet one morning I underwent surgery while saying good-bye to an intubated baby before he was flown in a helicopter to a hospital an hour away. Diagnosed with respiratory distress syndrome, he lived several days before I could hold him in my arms, yet this was an unforgettable eternity for a mother. Our family and friends held us together during a protracted period of touch and go, and we were the lucky ones who got to leave the NICU, after a 10-day stay, with a boy who's now doing great. Yet the unspoken bond I felt with the other mothers of preterm babies is still with me today as I pray for NICU babies and parents. A mother of a preemie is forever changed by her experience. The child will never remember, but the mother will never forget.'" - Jessi Zatezalo, mother of Adam Zatezalo, born at 35 weeks