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I was lucky to have been invited to the family/friends preview showing of Charlotte’s Web on Thursday, January 28,2016. Charlotte’s Web is currently being performed at Oglebay Institute’s Towngate Theatre. Let me start out by saying this was absolutely wonderful from beginning to end. Everyone knows the tale of Charlotte’s Web where Charlotte (the spider) and Wilbur (the pig) become fast friends and she saves his life by weaving into her web positive words about Wilbur that amaze all.  Enough so that his owners decide not to have him for dinner.  He then, in the end, nurtures and saves Charlotte’s 514 eggs for a whole year until they safely hatch. All the actors—youngsters and adults—put on an excellent, excellent performance. This includes our own, Erin and Aleigha Dodd and Hilary Regan.  Wonderful performances, absolutely wonderful.  You will be amazed by Wilbur, Templeton, Charlotte and I just have to mention the Gander.  How the actor portrays this character—well, you just have to see for yourself. I recommend wholeheartedly seeing this play at the iconic Towngate Theatre in the heart of Centre Wheeling.  You won’t be disappointed. -Susan Wilson Erin Dodd, our friend and co-worker, invited us to watch she and her daughter Aleigha perform in the classic tale of Charlotte’s Webb, now showing at Oglebay Institute’s Towngate Theatre.  I have been to several plays that Erin and Aleigha have been in and knew it would be a great.  My friends and I started off the evening with dinner at Market Vines, one of many great places to eat in Wheeling's historic Centre Market district.  After dinner, we walked up to the Towngate Theatre.  Towngate is located in the old Zion Lutheran Church, which has been turned into a wonderful venue for quality programs, including films, plays and local musical performances. Charlotte’s Web is by far one of the best live performances you will find in the Ohio Valley.  All the actors/thespians magically become the characters from the book, complete with costumes and realistic stage props. From the youngest of performers to the more “seasoned”, they were all great!  And they’re our friends and neighbors! How fun to see folks you know performing live on stage.  If you have forgotten how entertaining a live performance can be, you should go see for yourself.  From Wilbur the pig and Templeton the rat, the geese and sheep, and of course Charlotte the spider, you will be taken back to a simpler time.  And you may even learn something about friendship and loyalty.  Sometimes we overlook the wonderful opportunities in our own backyard.  Check it out, you’ll be glad you did. -Marilyn Bell I was lucky to have been invited to the family/friends preview showing of Charlotte�s Web on Thursday, January 28, 2016. Charlotte�s Web is currently being performed at Oglebay Institute�s Towngate Theatre.

Many of you who regularly read our blogs may know that over the course of the last year and a half, due to the encouragement of my daughter, Aleigha, I have done some acting at the Towngate Theatre. We have experienced what many mother-daughter duos never have the opportunity to enjoy together.  We have acted in the same theatrical presentations, but this time in the upcoming production of “Charlotte’s Web,” it’s a little different in that most of the time while we are on stage, we are side by side. I encourage you to come and see “Charlotte’s Web”.  There is no better way to find some good, family fun on a blustery, cold winter weekend.  Most people are familiar with the loving development of the friendship between Charlotte and Wilbur and the life lessons it teaches. We, the cast, have done our best to put a few of our own antics in there to be sure and have the audience laughing. I find this role in “Charlotte’s Web” to be a personal transition for myself in the theater.  You see, in previous roles that I’ve played, I have based my characters off of my own personality.  This time, however, I am coming out as someone completely different, both from a physical capacity and personality differences (And no, I am not the pig or the spider).  While challenging myself for this phase of my acting, Aleigha and I have had the opportunity to practice at home together and she has actually been teaching me a few tricks. I have had the opportunity to work under the watchful eye of Mr. Tim Thompson as our ever so knowledgeable director and his co-director, Bob Gaudio, whom I have acted with in past shows.  Their encouragement and patience has helped all of us succeed. They not only want to see us succeed for a genuinely awesome show to offer the public, they care that each actor/actress has a memorable experience as each character develops into a final masterpiece. The show opens at 7 p.m., Jan. 29 at the Towngate Theatre. Additional performances are scheduled for 7 p.m., Feb. 5, and for you early birds, there are 3 p.m. shows on Jan. 30-31 and Feb. 6. The children attending will receive a keepsake photograph and will have the opportunity to go on stage and meet the cast after the show. You may purchase tickets by calling 304-242-7700. We hope to see you there.  Wear your denim and enjoy a good ole’ County Fair!

I woke up one recent morning to hear that the Buffalo Bills had announced the hiring of the first female coach for their special teams. This comes on the heels of having our first female referee in the league. What a huge step for the Bills to take.  It shows people around the world that women can know as much about the game of football as well as any man.  Hopefully this will open new doors for us in other leagues, too. Way to go, ladies! You’ve made your mark in the NFL history books and have paved the way for the rest of us if we choose to start down that path to coach or referee a game in a professional sport. We now know we can.   I wouldn’t be surprised if this happened in hockey and baseball, too…women stepping onto the ice and fields for NHL and MLB.  As a lady who loves her sports, I wish females who have already been appointed the best of luck. I hope you can go farther than any women has ever dreamed of going in the NFL. My dad taught me the fundamentals of football. He said if you wanted to watch the game you should know the rules, the positions and the names of the players on the team you’re rooting for. Since I am from Pittsburgh, the Steelers will always be my team. That was instilled in me at a very young age.   I will always be grateful to my dad for that.  I, in turn, taught him a thing or two about the game and the rules of hockey. Let’s Go Pens! Rock on, people, rock on!

From age five, sports were basically my life. If I wasn’t playing basketball, kickball or running bases outside with the kids who lived on my street, you would find me in a gym practicing. I grew up around my older sisters playing numerous sports and with a dad who was a sports fanatic. I played in so many organizations that I don’t know how my parents kept track of where I was supposed to be and when. These organized sports included basketball for the school I attended, AAU basketball, soccer, volleyball, swimming (indoor and outdoor seasons), volleyball for the school I attended and junior Olympics volleyball. One year ago, I was in the middle of my senior season as a college basketball player. I never knew how much I would miss morning practices, long bus rides and playing for a championship. Fast forward to January 2016 and I am on the other side of the game. It’s scary how fast I went from being #11 to Coach Jenn. I always knew I wanted to coach and share my experiences, but I never knew I would miss playing this much. Although I miss my time as a player, when I get that look of “Coach Jenn did you see that…I did it, I did it” from one of my little girls, nothing compares to that moment. I see that light go off and I realize that I have not lost the game. I often look around the gym and see the girls laughing and cheering each other on and remember it was never just about basketball itself, but who I was surrounded by while playing. Coaching, so far, has been fun, yet difficult for me at times. I sometimes forget that they are still learning. I’m pretty confident that, at least one time every practice, one of my girls says, “Jenn we have no idea what you are talking about.” At that point I just have to laugh, and usually tell them to get a drink so I can figure out a better way to explain. I think coaching will find a way to fill my need for sports and I am beyond happy to share my love of the game with the first team I have ever coached.

It takes a lot to get me to the movie theater these days. One thing that will always do the trick, though, is a new James Bond movie.  I’ve always been a big fan of the 007 franchise, and the character of James Bond has to be one of the most intriguing and enduring characters in cinematic history.  Every so often, one of the cable channels will run a James Bond Marathon and it’s fun just to scroll through the channel guide to see what is coming on next.  Whenever those marathons get going, I make it a point to set aside some time to watch “Goldfinger” and “Thunderball”. Sean Connery, 007’s gadgets, and sinister masterminds at their respective best. I’ve been very encouraged by the most recent installments of the franchise starring Daniel Craig in the 007 role.  For my money, he is a close second to Connery in the series and each of the most recent movies have been well worth the time.  The opening chase sequence and the poker scenes in “Casino Royale” are as good as Bond gets and I would put “Skyfall” right next to “Goldfinger” at the top of the list for all time Bond movies, thanks in large part to the performance of Javier Bardem as one of the best villains to have ever threatened the free world on screen. Unfortunately, I thought the franchise took a slight step back with “Spectre” released at the end of last year.  One of the things that I like so much about the Bond movies is their relative accessibility from one movie to the next.  For the most part, new viewers don’t have to be familiar with the entire series of movies to be able to follow the plot of any one of them.  This allows casual fans or new fans (like my kids) to be able to enjoy the movie without having to be worried about an extensive back-story.  On that note, “Spectre” fell short.  There were a lot of inside jokes that I appreciated, but probably missed the casual fan.  I also found the plot harder to follow than usual.  The best characters in Bond movies, good guys and bad, are not subtle about their motivations.  Everything is right on the surface.  “Spectre” was a bit more complicated than that. With all of that said, “Spectre” certainly delivered on many important fronts.  The action sequences were as good as you will see in any movie, including a sprawling battle in a helicopter over Mexico City and a chase that ultimately results in Bond intentionally crashing a plane into his adversary’s car.  Great stuff.  I also appreciate the return of the henchman.  The henchman is an underappreciate feature of the Bond films.  Who could forget Oddjob in “Goldfinger” and Jaws in “Moonraker”?  Two of the most memorable characters in the entire series.  In “Spectre” the job of the henchman, Mr. Hinx, is very well played by Dave Bautista, otherwise of WWE fame. I’d rank “Spectre” solidly in the middle of the pack when it comes to Bond films.  Rumors are already spreading about the next Bond film.  You can be sure that I will have my exploding watch and ejector seat ready to go.

In college I majored in English literature and, as a result, I own a lot of books. Each time I’ve moved in the 10 years since I graduated, I’ve gone through the extended and exhausting process of packing and unpacking several bookcases’ worth of books. I don’t necessarily treat them all that well – I’ve always been likely to make extensive notes in the margins and dog-ear pages that contain my favorite passages. I like to say my books are well-loved. There’s something comforting about having a house full of bookcases and, for a long time, I thought I would never be willing to give up purchasing physical copies of books. I couldn’t understand the appeal of e-Readers. Sure, they seemed convenient and could store a ton of books at once, but how could they ever replace the feeling of holding a book in your hands? How could they replace being able to scribble notes beside interesting passages? How could they replace that smell of a new book? How could they replace my bookshelves? Finally, this past summer, I gave in and bought myself an e-Reader. I’m a chronic over-packer when it comes to vacations, so I thought it might be nice not to worry about the extra weight of a few hardbound books shoved into my suitcase. I didn’t expect that one vacation to change my mind. Not having to carry heavy books in my carry-on was kind of great. Being able to download a new book while I was on my layover was even better. Having a full selection of titles to choose from over the course of my entire vacation was eye-opening. It only took a week, and I was a convert. So while I won’t be getting rid of my bookshelves anytime soon, I’ve certainly seen what the fuss is all about. While e-Readers may lack that new book smell and don’t have any pages for me to dog-ear, I can’t help but be charmed by a piece of technology that has made it so much easier for me to read every day. I have actually found myself reading much more often and finishing many more books since I bought my e-Reader, and that has made the change well worth it.

Chase Harler is a lot of things to a lot of people- son, brother, pupil, teammate, but to one little boy he is a hero. Chase Harler is a senior at Wheeling Central who is breaking scoring records and excelling on and off the court. He has already signed to play basketball at Division I school, WVU, next year. These things make Chase so appealing to a little boy living with Spina Bifida. But what makes Chase amazing to me, and what makes Chase such a stellar example of human kindness is his willingness to embrace this young boy. Chase Harler in all his glory and record breaking athleticism is still just a boy himself- A high schooler, not yet an adult. Yet, he displayed more class and compassion than many of the adults I know when he welcomed this little boy with open arms onto "his" court. As a mother, I can only hope that I raise my five children, four of which are sons, to embrace others this way. I believe that much of Chase's compassion and kindness is a credit to his parents, who likely instilled in him all of the right values in life. I imagine some of it comes from the stellar education and Christian guidance he is receiving at CCHS. I also believe that some of it just comes naturally to Chase- an all around nice kid. God clearly has blessed Chase with a gift- the skill, knowledge and athleticism that makes him an incredible basketball player. It warms my heart to see Chase using his gift to touch a little boy who wasn't given the gift of mobility and athleticism, but instead, is confined to a wheelchair. I have no doubt that little Blake has so many gifts inside of him that he is bursting at the seams. My guess is Blake will touch just about everybody's life he meets in a different way than Chase has touched his. Chase has already said that "Blake is an inspiration to him." As Chase grows into an adult and lives life, Blake's inspiration will take on many different forms and meanings to him. He can look back on his good deed, and feel a reciprocity from that little boy that he never expected or foresaw. The greatest current athletes in the world are using their gifts to help others - I have seen videos of LeBron James taking time to welcome a crippled boy courtside at one of his games. Stephen Curry's philanthropy list is long and well known. It's impressive that at such a young age, Chase can be so impressionable to those supporting him and can rank with the likes of some big name athletes and their excellent character traits. As a mother, a basketball coach and former player I am beyond proud of Chase for taking  the time to give a little of himself to brighten someone's day.  Kudos to Chase and all those who have encouraged Chase to share his gift with the world and use it for the betterment of mankind. God Bless to Blake whose many gifts will be displayed in his lifetime and "pay it forward" to others. We all have gifts. May we all find them and use them to help others. "Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God's grace..." - 1 Peter 4:10 "We all have different gifts, each of which came because of the grace God gave us." ---Romans 12:6

This past week, we saw all over social media and the news that a K-9 officer was killed in the state of Ohio. Most people are saddened by a loss of any officer, but when it’s a K-9 officer, the emotions are so different.  These (four-legged) officers go first to clear the way for their human partners and they put themselves in danger and never once stop to think about themselves.  Why is that?  Dogs are protectors of humans and love us unconditionally and, more than likely, will befriend most humans until a human shows they can’t be trusted. Today’s K-9 officers are not like they were back in the day when dogs were first introduced to police work.  They are better trained and live with their human police officer partners and their families until retirement and most retired K-9s live out the rest of their days with the families that have become so dear to their heart. Today’s four-legged officers do more than just ride and walk our streets protecting us.  They are bomb sniffing, drug smuggling finders and they still keep us all safe.  K-9 breeds have changed, too. They are not just the standard German Shepherd   they had back in the day.  Mixed breeds and all sizes of dogs are now used to do so many wonder things for us.  Dogs, over the years, have become our best friends or they can be our worst nightmare.  No dog is born mean just like no person is born to hate. It is learned over the years. K-9 officers have given up their lives for so many. In the end, they deserve to be treated just like any other officer on the force.  If they are killed in the line of duty and the suspect is caught, that suspect should go on trial just like it would be for any other officer killed in the line of duty. I feel the same way about our military dogs, too, but that’s a whole other story waiting to be written. So from Barley, Guinness, Jackson, Caroline and myself, we thank you for your service and for putting your dog self in harms way for all of us. Bark on, Bordas Dog Nation, Bark On.

On January 4, 2016, President Obama announced a series of Executive Orders to address gun-related violence in America. Among those orders was the creation of a limited “express permission” in the HIPAA Privacy Rule to disclose information relevant to the federal mental prohibitor for National Instant Criminal Background Check System (NICS).  The NICS is a national system maintained by the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) to conduct background checks on persons who may be disqualified from receiving firearms based on federally prohibited categories or state law. Among the persons subject to the federal mental health prohibitor are individuals who have been involuntarily committed to a mental institution; found incompetent to stand trial or not guilty by reason of insanity; or otherwise have been determined by a court, board, commission or other lawful authority to be a danger to themselves or others or to lack the mental capacity to contract or manage their own affairs, as a result of marked subnormal intelligence or mental illness, incompetency, condition or disease.  The President believes the HIPAA modification is “necessary to address the concerns of covered entities were reluctant to report perceiving HIPAA as a barrier.” Setting aside whether the President’s conduct in creating exceptions to federal laws established through congress is legal, many health care professionals are concerned about what these changes will have on our country’s mental health care system.  Opponents of the executive action argue that communications between patients and their health care providers should be kept confidential under all circumstances, and that HIPAA prohibits such conduct. For instance, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) strongly advocates that people should not be treated differently with respect to firearms regulations based on stereotypical assumptions about mental illness and its relationship to violence. NAMI believes that the current NICS law is based on faulty assumptions about the relationships between mental illness and violence, not grounded in science. We therefore do not support amending the HIPAA Privacy Rule to create a special exception for reporting of mental health records to the NICS database. Moreover, the National Association of Psychiatric Health Systems (NAPHS) is concerned that the public will perceive the new rule as a mandate for their mental health doctor, nurse, therapist, counselor, etc.  to report an “incompetent” or “dangerous” patient to the federal registry.  As a result, the NAPHS believes that the rule will create a chilling effect on individuals' willingness to seek treatment, or discuss issues in treatment that could lead to positive resolution rather than violence directed toward themselves or others.  Others are concerned that some covered providers, motivated for political or other nefarious reasons, will exercise this rule to report political dissidents who, in their opinion, may be a danger to themselves or others, and therefore unfit to own a firearm.  For example, those patients diagnosed with “oppositional defiance disorder,” i.e. a recurrent pattern of negativistic, defiant, disobedient and hostile behavior toward authority figures, might be someone, who in the healthcare professional’s opinion, is incompetent or a risk of harming self or others, necessitating legal proceedings, NICS reports and ultimately deprivation of one’s Second Amendment rights. In response, the President acknowledged the need to balance the public safety interest and individual privacy interests, which is why the grant of permission to report applies only to those covered entities that order the involuntary commitments or make the other adjudications that cause individuals to be subject to the federal mental health prohibitor, or that serve as repositories of such information for NICS reporting purposes. Thus, the rule does not affect most treating providers or create a permission for them to disclose PHI about their own patients for these purposes. Furthermore, the information that may be disclosed is limited to an individual’s: Social Security number, state of residence, height, weight, place of birth, eye color, hair color and race.  The President, however, notes that this list could be expanded to include: the individual's name, sex and date of birth; as well as codes identifying (1) the Federal mental health prohibitor, (2) the record documenting the involuntary commitment or adjudication and (3) the entity from which the record initiated) that may be helpful in verifying identity and excluding false matches.  The White House further explained that this rule has no bearing as to who is authorized or prohibited from owning a firearm, just a grant of permission to release information. It remains to be seen whether the new HIPAA rule will foster public security, and/or have a deleterious effect on mental health care.  Will individuals in need of professional mental health services, refuse to seek treatment, thereby increasing the risk of suicides and/or homicides?  Perhaps not, but it would be interesting to see if the Department of Health and Human Services or some other federal agency would develop data gathering strategies to determine what effect the deprivation of individual privacy rights has on individual mental health and public safety in the United States of America.  Moreover, it will be interesting to see if the states revisit their own privacy laws, and decide whether they need to implement and/or modify state privacy laws to suit the needs of their residents.

I’m not much of a gambler, but over the last few weeks everyone at the firm has been purchasing Powerball tickets as a team, and who knows? We could win! I find myself fantasizing about what if. Have you ever thought about what you would do if you won the lottery? For me, remaining anonymous would be a priority. Then I would fly off to paradise with my family for a few weeks and gather all their input to figure out just what we should do with our winnings. I know I would pay off bills for our family members.  My husband suggested that we just give away our current investments and belongings and go somewhere warm and start from scratch.  That’s not such a bad idea. I find myself smiling when I imagine us anonymously surprising someone by doing something spectacular for a person in need just because we can. Although I know there are things I would change, many things would be kept relatively the same.  I wouldn’t necessarily want to attain any specific material items, but I would look to improve quality of life. For myself, my intention of improving quality of life means allowing myself to spend a little extra money freeing up more time enjoying life.  Instead of doing everything myself, I then would have more time to take things in stride. That could mean hiring staff to assist me with my business or my home so I could spend all my time concentrating on those I love and hold close to my heart without the daily distractions and the hustle and bustle.  I guess it would somehow let us give ourselves permission to stop and smell the roses…something that gets put off all too often.  My loved ones would then have all of me and I would have all of them.  If you ask me, that’s something you can’t put a price tag on. - Erin Dodd What I would do with my cut of the Billion Dollar Power Ball Ok, a girl can dream, can’t she?!? Well, first and foremost, I would take care of my family and my friends who are like my family. Oh, the things I could do to help originations in our area. I would give some of my winnings to help find a cure for cancer, to help all domestic violence victims, to help abused children, to help those who have drug problems and more. My list could go on and on.  But my one passion in life is dogs.  I would love to help our local shelters and my one goal would be to open a home/hospice for dogs.   I would love to make sure they are cared for in a way that they know that they are loved long- or short- term.  Most shelters don’t have the time or the means to do this. I find it hard to believe that a person would dump their pet at the shelter because they just don’t want to take the time to care for them when they age.  My love of dogs has always been strong and I’ve always been a caretaker for someone in my life, but taking care of a dog is a privilege that not too many people understand. I want any dog in the last stages of life to have it good life, whether it’s playing with a bunch of balls, eating favorite foods or just sleeping in a comfortable bed before they head over the Rainbow Bridge. This would make me one happy lady.  I would do it in the name of love, Otis the Dog and Zoey Girl because no dog should ever have to head to their final resting place alone or without looking into the eyes of a loving human who really cares about what happens. What an awesome place it would be! Bark on Bordas Dog Nation, Bark on. -Jeanne Dedo

The smart phone era and social media popularity both certainly have their perks. I mean isn't it cool that we can get virtually any information needed at any time with portable devices? And how awesome is it that our friends and family across the globe can share in our lives via Facebook and other social media outlets by looking at photos of our kids, wishing us well when they didn't see us at the last holiday gathering, congratulating us on our accomplishments or a new baby, or sending us condolences for the loss of a loved one... The list goes on. How terrific is it that we can get information at an unbelievable speed and at utmost convenience? We can Google the answers to our child's homework, look up a phone number, shop online, check sports scores, find new recipes, you name it! They are all just a click away or sometimes a simple question to Siri. How convenient for all of us! Then there is texting. Which isn't exactly that new of a phenomenon, but still is awfully cool in and of itself. It is a quiet way to correspond with friends and family, a quick and easy way to tell them something. No kids yelling in the background, and no waiting to leave a voicemail. Just text and when they get a chance they will see it. I often think about how convenient that feature would have been for me while I was in law school and married, living away from my husband. I am not old. We had cell phones when I was in law school (I did graduate in the 2000s). They weren't big and bulky and ancient looking with antennas (think Jurassic Park or Saved By the Bell). They were compact and normal – flip phones. But we didn't text. No, I had to wait to call my husband when I was out of class and hope he was available to take my call. I couldn't just text a reminder to him here or there but a whole conversation had to take place. That's just a simple example of a difference that technology has brought to our lives in just a few short (less than 10) years. There are thousands of other examples I could give and many more examples those older than me could share. The generation before me, they had phones that were connected to the wall! Hard to believe you had to stand in the same location to have a conversation. And when they needed to help their kids with their homework, they used books- encyclopedias and dictionaries. Their computers, if you were financially sound enough to even own one, weren’t portable. They were connected to the wall and often times used a dial up connection to get on the Internet. Which meant the phone, connected to the wall, now couldn’t be used. How lucky are we today with the technology and resources we have available? Pretty lucky. But as with all things, there are drawbacks. And this leads me to why I am jealous of the older generation and why the younger generation should be jealous of me... I’m jealous of the TIME the older generation had. And the younger generation should be jealous of the PRIVACY I had growing up. Let me explain...you know those answers that are so readily available to us? And those friends that we can reach with just a quick post on Facebook or a text? These people that technology has made so easy for us to reach?  They’re stealing my TIME! I do it. I am guilty of it. I know I am. And probably some of you are, too. I check texts when I shouldn't. I read social media when I shouldn't. When what I want to be doing, and what I need to be doing is spending time with my loved ones or enjoying a family dinner. I should be taking in a moment that may seem normal and ordinary and making it spectacular and extraordinary. I could be having an old-fashioned conversation!  I could be present in the moment before the moment becomes a memory. Have any of you seen the pictures that were taken of families looking at their phones, and the phones were removed from the photos via Photoshop? It was incredible! People on dates looking at their hands (where the phone would normally be), couples in bed and on the same couch on their photo-shopped out phones, parents at the park with their kids or at their sporting events on their photo-shopped out phones, kids at the dinner table with photo-shopped out iPads. How silly the photos looked without the device in them, yet how clearly the point was made. We have welcomed these devices into our homes and allowed them to be a part of our intimate moments with our loved ones and family members. We bring them to dinner, bed, sporting events, vacation. These smart phones, they have made me stupid. Stupid enough to have let them steal my TIME and for that I am jealous of the older generation who didn't have the temptation or existence of such devices. And that younger generation: my children. It makes me sad and nervous to think of their childhood and adolescence. They are fortunate to have so many wonderful opportunities afforded to them because of technology. They can learn things younger and faster than I ever could. They can self –teach by simply watching a YouTube video and they can explore areas of the world - photos of foreign lands and animals, videos of foreign languages and customs. They can read without books and watch movies without DVDs. But they have so much freedom that their privacy has been lost. Growing up is hard enough to do without social media to accentuate your flaws. Going to school was hard enough when people were mean and nasty to you in the confines of the school building, now there is cyber bullying. A kid can't even go home to the place he feels secure, with people that love him, without still being connected to the horrible people who haunt him. And what about all those stupid things we do - in college, or while drunk or ever? Now, there is a camera as readily available to us as our phones to document all that stuff quickly, easily and indiscreetly. We have all done something that we probably regret. How would we feel if that regretful thing was captured in a photo or a video and then sent to people or worse yet publicly posted for the whole world to see? The horror!!! There are so many wonderful ways that social media and smart phones help us - find lost loved ones, solve crime, capture memories easier, execute prayer chains, etc., but there are so many ways that the same media can hurt our lives. I don't want technological advances to take away any more of my TIME and I don't want it to invade any more of my children's privacy. I want my children to get to enjoy life and make mistakes and live without the fear and anxiety that comes with social media. They don't see technology that way. This is all they know! But I know differently! And my parents knew differently, and their parents did, and their parents did and so on. It's the evolution of life. It is a beautiful thing. Minds are reaching new horizons and making awesome gadgets. Brains are finding cures for diseases that those before them could have only dreamed of finding. We get to LIVE this! Let us make sure that we actually are LIVING it. And not merely using it as a substitute for living.

On Saturday night, I wrote on Social Media during the AFC Playoff Game between the Pittsburgh Steelers and Cincinnati Bengals that I hoped that young kids watching the game were learning how not to play football. The Bengals not only self-destructed in the final two minutes of the game, but they did it in a way that is embarrassing to the NFL, and to be quite frank, to those associated with football everywhere. Jeremy Hill fumbled the football with the game on the line.  The man made a mistake by not securing the football with the game all but wrapped up for his team. Mistakes happen. That is part of football. Indeed, it is part of life. His fumble gave the Steelers the ball and a chance to drive for a game-winning field goal.  But, what followed should not be part of football. Bengals linebacker Vontaze Burfict and cornerback Adam (formerly known as "Pacman") Jones handed the Steelers the game with conduct that was not only unsportsmanlike, but also flies in the face of all that is good about football.  I am a lawyer. I am also a high school football coach.  But, the role in my life that I take most seriously is that of father.  Would any father watching the actions of Burfict and Jones at the end of that game want their son to play a game where such conduct occurs? Are they examples of the values we want our kids to learn? Burfict took a cheap and illegal shot to the head of Antonio Brown, a defenseless Steelers wideout and the best receiver in the league this season, giving him a concussion. His team was penalized 15 yards for his conduct while Brown remained on the field for several minutes being checked. Jones then garnered an additional 15 yard penalty as a result of a verbal and/or physical exchange with Steelers assistant coach Joey Porter and the officials.  The result of the two penalties was the Steelers having the ball at the Bengals 18 yard line instead of the 48 yard line. The next play Chris Boswell drilled a 35 yard field goal to win the game and eliminate the Bengals from the playoffs. It was the culmination of a night where Burfict and his defensive teammates were out of control both on the field and on the sideline.  And, it should be a lesson for all young kids who watched --- it's not the way you are supposed to play the game. Football can be and is at times a violent sport. After all, you have tremendous athletes moving at a high rate of speed colliding into each other with a significant amount of force. Because of this, players sometimes get injured. However, it should never be the goal to illegally injure an opposing player. It is unsportsmanlike, it is dirty and it is downright immoral. We play the game to learn about hard work, teamwork and perseverance.  We accept the risk of injury because we know that what we gain from the game outweighs the hardships it may bring. But, this is all premised upon the participants playing the game by the rules. When players are out of control and have no regard for the rules, the scales are tipped, the risk of serious injury goes up and it makes it a game not worth watching. Intent to illegally injure. Verbal and physical altercations. Unfair play.  None of these are principles that make the game great. None of these make us want to watch. None of these make us want to sign our kids up to play.  They are downright despicable.  So, I'm glad the actions of Burfict and Jones cost their team the game Saturday night.  In fact, I hope it costs them their jobs. As for kids watching the game, I hope you learned something important.  Playing illegally or acting like a fool is not the way you play the game. It will only cost you in football and in life.